Book Review of 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go by Jay Shetty
So, there are several books on the market, many of which even speak of love and its complexities, but seldom has a book appeared that does more than just delve into the usual cliches’ of trying to understand the many layers that adorn its multiple perspectives. 8 Rules of Love by Jay Shetty is a book that you need to read, dropping everything else since it is a piece of writing straight from the heart.
I love you not only for what you are but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself but also for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out
Elizabeth Barrett Browning
Oh yes, this quote, which happens to be one of my absolute favourites, has this absolute scintillating effect on me owing to narrating all of what I feel in a complete nutshell. Indeed, true partners are those who happen to be in perfect tandem with each other in the relationship, the positive aspects of one making up for the shortcomings of the other. Love is also not only about complimenting or fulfilling alone, it is in fact such a huge Pandora’s box of mystique and wonder that I usually feel that the statement-“One life is just not enough” was born amidst love and its numerous idiosyncrasies itself.
And yet, when I read super life coach, influencer, and writer Jay Shetty’s 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go, I was completely zapped. For starters, this one had a completely “sorted”, meticulously mused upon sort of vibe, which actually felt pleasant to be diving into, unlike other nonfiction reads upon the same topic, which holds superficially tall claims but seldom comes closer to home when it comes to striking the perfect chord with my mind.
The Idea As It Goes
You know, I always feel that love is something so pure and whole that it barely needs to be explained. Yet, 99% of us fail to love fully, fruitfully, and most importantly, unconditionally. The reason is that we have never seemed to look at it in the right way, from a given kind of perspective. What one needs to understand here is the total idea of it as well as what it is that makes love attainable as well as a dream come true, apart from being one of your total strengths in life.
We all know and agree that none of us is perfect. And yet, at a given point in time, in a relationship, what is it that we aspire to? To win and lose together, define love together. Inspired by Vedic wisdom owing to his pursuits and dabble in that kind of science, both ancient and modern, Jay has, instead of writing this one in the usual cliched’ manner, decoded and tackled it meticulously, right from first date to moving in together to breaking up as well as starting over.
A behavioural science graduate from Cass Business School, a writer, life coach, and host of the famous podcast “On Purpose”, this man has truly moved millions when it comes to his ideas and ideologies. So, before I dive in and decode the maestro’s writing any further, let me give you the 8 rules quickly and concisely:
- Let yourself be Alone.
- Don’t ignore your Karma.
- Define love before you think about it, feel it, or Say it.
- Your Partner is your Guru.
- Purpose comes first.
- Win or lose together.
- You don’t break in a Breakup.
- Love again and again.
Hmm, simple yet highly relatable and effective principles that can help one effectively navigate and dive into the complexities of love. What I loved here was the fact that each principle was beautifully explained with the help of relatable stories, profound musings, and certain exercises too, making the whole experience truly uplifting as well as enlightening.
Founded upon the core ideas of self-love as well as awareness, Jay masterfully weaves the importance of emotions and motivations and also highlights the insecurities one might feel before connecting to other people. Compassion, as well as empathy, being the core epicentre and the main pillars of love, as defined by him, was another aspect I could totally resonate with.
You know, Jay has actually said in this one that love is not just a feeling but an action, a conscious choice to treat other people with pure respect and kindness. Alongside examining other complexities such as gratitude, forgiveness, and anger issues, he stresses the fact that, given proper effort and time, relationships always bring immense personal growth. He also reiterates the importance of openly accepting and embracing one’s imperfections and thus approaching any relationship in a genuine, authentic manner, with no strings attached.
My Thoughts
Well, for starters, this one definitely offers a refreshing outlook on love and its idiosyncrasies. One who is out there to understand and decode attachment and also create more significant relationships in their lives, well, this one is for you all. A journey of love leading you along the path of self-discovery, this one will surely help you become a better version of yourself. Pick this one up, not for your reading lists, your shelves, or fine coffee table reading, but rather to become that brilliant person, you have always wanted to be. Go read it today!
So, I hope you guys liked my thoughts on this one.
Adios Amigos!
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